If you are the caregiver for an elderly or sick loved one, you know the toll that this labor of love can take. Those involved in caregiving may also have a job, children in the home, or other responsibilities which must also be given attention, no matter how needy their loved one is.
If an elderly person is also suffering from dementia or Alzheimer’s, the toll is not only physical, it is often mental. Those who care for memory patients at home often find themselves frustrated, burnt out and even angry.
The Caregiving Catch-22
For those who are caregivers, the problem is one of both time and money.
They don’t have the money to hire a full time helper, so they have to work. Going to work requires that someone is there to watch their loved one. This means people may have to work all day, only to come home and work all night. It can be exhausting and overwhelming.
It is important that caregivers find ways to recharge their batteries and have some time to themselves. Otherwise, negative emotions are likely to surface and can affect close relationships. Lets face it, exhaustion can cause even the most compassionate person to lose their temper.
If you are a caregiver, especially if you have other responsibilities as well, be sure to:
- Ask for help – even a few hours per week “off” can do wonders to make you feel rejuvenated.
- Take care of yourself – exercise, eat nutritious food, and get enough sleep. When you are healthy, you are better equipped to handle stress.
- Give yourself a break – this is a hard job for anyone, and no one can be expected to handle every day and every situation perfectly.
Assisted Living and Memory Care
Many people dismiss assisted living and memory care out of hand, thinking them too expensive. But there may be several ways for you to pay for these living arrangements, which will also allow you to resume your career outside the home. The administration at these facilities are great resources to discuss your options. Read more about creative ways to finance memory care and assisted living. Also read about Disability payments, Veteran’s Benefits and long-term care insurance.
A great option for those who still feel they cannot afford a full time professional residence but need a break is to look into respite care.
Respite care is defined as either scheduled or emergency temporary care provided to caregivers. Respite services provide short-term breaks for families and other unpaid caregivers of adults with an intellectual disability, age related illness, or cognitive decline. Respite offers a positive experience for the person receiving care, allowing the full-time caregiver to get a break. A caregiver who is stressed, angry or impatient is doing themselves and their charges a disservice. (Depending on the type of facility, respite care is also often available for parents and caregivers of developmentally disabled or physically challenged children.)
At A Banyan Residence, we care committed to helping people make the best decisions for their loved ones and their families. We provide respite care for Venice area residents, and are happy to meet with you to discuss financing options if it is time to consider full time care. Just like you, we are striving to provide a caring, compassionate environment for your loved ones. Call today for a tour and a consultation.